1. Create memories, keep them and share them with your children.
Time goes very fast, when you least expect it those little children that you carried in your arms, now they are about to become adults, try to make every moment unique so that when time goes by you can remember all those moments you spent together. If you can, take photos, videos, but most importantly, enjoy the moment, enjoy your family, your children, because tomorrow may be too late. With those memories you can help your children where they come from and above all to guide them on a good path.
2. Don't obsess about being a perfect parent
You as a parent want to do everything right, by this I mean that you don't accept that you are human and that you can make mistakes, you don't accept that you are wrong. You can't have the idea that you don't do everything right, just as your children can feel bad, so can you and when that happens you can get it wrong more easily.
Don't be obsessed with being a perfect parent, be obsessed with being your children's best friend, because for them you are perfect, just knowing that you are there to support them and love them is more than enough.
3. Being a parent is forever
Being a parent is not just one day and not another, it's not like it has an expiry date or expires, being a parent is a big responsibility. Many fathers think that when their children come of age their role as a father is over, but this is not the case. Maybe when they grow up the responsibility is not as great as when they were little, but the fact that they are their parents they should know that they will always be there to help them and support them in everything they do. They may not be children anymore, but they will always be your children. And believe it or not, your children will always take care of you, because you will always be their shield and they know that they will always be welcome in their parents' home. You will always be their safe place.
Do you believe that perfect parents exist?, What do you think is the biggest challenge for parents?
I want to thank you for being in my last blog, I hope you liked it and above all I hope it helped you. Remember that being a father is one of the best blessings life can give you.
The last two weeks we talked about tips that are very important, but this week we will talk about three other tips that may not be important for some, but in reality they are, because at this age everything is very important and you should be aware of everything.
1. Answer all their questions
This is very important, sometimes parents do something insignificant and only give advice on the first thing that comes into their heads, without knowing that what they say to their children can affect them. If your children ask for help or don't know about something, help them, but above all, understand them.
Answer each of their doubts and if you cannot help them, try to find specialists who can help, but never leave it for later, for tomorrow, because tomorrow may be too late. Always respond to their doubts, because if they ask you for help it is because they know that you are their father and you will always support them.
2. Try to understand them
It may be difficult, because the way in which you as a child were brought up or simply in the era in which you lived is very different from the one in which your child is right now. You have to understand that every generation is different, so the best thing you can do is try to understand, it won't always be right but that's what you are there for as a parent to guide and help them, but always try to listen to them so you can understand them. Let him explain in his own way, but the most important thing is communication.
3. Watch what he does
The most common problems of teenagers today are due to school problems, family problems, etc., but the biggest problem is that only a few people are able to realize what the teenagers really have, but those people are not the parents, they are their friends or their siblings. Try as a parent to observe your child, and above all to be more interested in his or her life. These problems are rarely detected by parents when they reach extreme situations. Everything is caused because parents see changes in their children or sometimes they don't see them, but take it as something very normal or something of the young people. My advice is to be more observant of the changes in your child, but try above all to take an interest in their life.
Do you think that the way your parents used to think when they were your age, is different from the way you think now?
Thanks for being on my blog this week, I hope to see you next week.
This week we are back with the second part of the blog, today I will give 3 advices for parents.
This week I will give three pieces of advice that are very important to me.
1. Share and spend time with your children
This is one of the most important tips that we are going to talk about in this blog, because children need their parents to be attentive to them, they want their parents to spend quality time with them. Most parents are not able to spend time with their family because of work, and that is where the teenager can not develop in a good way, because for him, his parents do not have time to do anything.
Take the time to be able to spend time with your child, because time goes too fast and when you realize it is already too late, because that child or adolescent does not want to spend time with you.
2. Don't compare with others
One of the most common mistakes is to compare your children with other people that you think are better than them, but in reality you are only affecting them. Because if you tell him that he is bad at something and he tries to make an effort, what you will achieve is to discourage him and make him feel like a worthless person.
It is better to see what he is better at, what his qualities are, what he likes to do, try to always see the good side and if he is not good at something, try to help him to improve every day. Before comparing him think that instead of helping him you are going to harm him.
Don't forget to remind them how unique and special your child is.
3.Take an interest in his way of thinking
Take into account what he thinks about the world, what he wants for his future, what he likes. Don't forget to ask him what he thinks about things, don't forget to take him into account, maybe he won't agree with you on everything, but believe me it is important that you always take him into account, that you know what he thinks and above all what he wants. Because at the end of the day you are the person who can help him to better himself, so that he can be better every day.
Never make his opinion less important because at the end of the day his opinion does count, his opinion is important and you as a parent should be the first one to be interested in what your child thinks and wants.
This week's question is:
Do you think your parents spend time with you, do you think your parents are interested in the way you think?
Thanks for coming back to my blog this week, I hope you liked it, see you next week.
This is addressed to the parents of today who are going thought the adolescence stage with their children. This topic is very important and therefore should be a way in which parents can provide support to their children who are going through difficult times.
Most of the time when a teenager is going through difficult times parents do not realize what is really happening with their children, they are not aware of their child's life, this is where you can realize that there are friends, acquaintances or other people who know more about your child, than yourself as a parent.
1. LISTEN TO YOUR CHILDREN
My first advice I can give to parents is to always listen to their children, and no matter how small the problem is, they should always listen and above all support them.
Children should always see their parents as a figure in which they should feel safe and above all, they should see them as an unconditional support. Teenagers want to know that their parents are looking out for them, because they want their parents to be there no matter what.
Although with this, parents should also know how to advise their children and if they are doing something wrong, they can help them, tell them what they should do or what they should change and take the necessary measures.
2. DO NOT SET LIMITS OR RULES FOR YOUR CHILDREN THAT YOU AS A PARENT CANNOT FOLLOW.
This happens very often, when you scold your children, you always set limits, you always scold them, you punish them, for things that your children always do and that may bother you, but the bad thing is not that you are telling them that it is wrong, the bad things is that you as a parent do not set the example. Try to make sure that everything you tell them is the same thing you do, so don't tell your child not to do something if you do it.
For example, when you tell your child that he can't eat with his cell phone on the table, but you as a parent do it.
3. REPRESSING EMOTIONS
The most common mistake parents make is that even if teenagers express the way hey feel, or express their emotions, parents take it lightly and see it as an insignificant issue, they see it as if the teenager is just playing, but in reality it is not, because that issue that for parents can be very simple or silly, for that teenager it can be very difficult to cope and even more if they do not have the necessary support, since the greatest support a teenager can have is that of their parents. By repressing emotions, the only thing they do is that the adolescent does not express what he/she really feels and may end up in greater circumstances.
What do you think about the support and limits that your parents give you?
Thank you very much for reading my blog, I hope you liked it, see you next week.
